Marriage Coaching
Coaching vs. Counseling
Coaching is very present and future thinking. It is driven by Actions and Goals and focuses on personal and relational growth. Generally, it is shorter in length and quite often leans into strengths and skills. Marriage Coaches are not licensed mental health professionals. Coaching also tends to focus on the "how" of moving forward, providing tools and strategies to achieve a desired future.
Counseling is past and present thinking. It is driven by insight and underlying patterns and focuses on healing past wounds and phycological/emotional issues. In general, counseling is longer in duration to give time to unpacking those emotional issues. Marriage Counselors are mental health professionals who are capable of dealing with conditions that might affect the relationship. Counseling also tends to explore the "why" of your relationship issues
Marriage Coaching looks like coaching a baseball team of young kids. Just about every kid knows how to swing a bat. If you told them to go up to bat, they would stand in the box, hold the bat and swing at a pitch because that's what they've seen others do. But, they might not stand on the right side of the plate, hold their hands right, have the proper stance or even swing perfectly. If they do get a hit, they may run to third instead of first or they may freeze and not run at all! This is why they need a coach! Someone to help them play the game to the best of their ability and teach them the fundamentals of how to do it. A major part of the coach's job is to help break bad habits that have been developed over years and to assist in creating healthy habits that can be practiced over and over, just like batting practice.
The same experiences apply to marriage. You may have grown up having a marriage modeled to you that wasn't ideal. Or you saw marriages on social media that looked perfect but created unrealistic expectations. Or maybe there wasn't any modeled marriages for you at all! With no good examples, you are left to figure it out on your own. You might do alright, but statistics show that most couples will struggle and are likely to fail without a good marriage modeled for them. Even worse, you might model those mistakes to your children who will think those actions are the norm in a marriage. You could be creating a pattern that will get passed down for generations!
We have to remember that the goal for marriage is not to just "make it", but to have companionship, intimacy, mutual growth, fun and a shared life, all in a stable environment. Your children don't need a financial legacy as much as they need a marriage legacy!
We want to coach you to create that legacy marriage for your family. It's never too late to start! Reach out today!