Our Core Principles
This page lists out some of our core principles that we live and coach by. We believe that if you focus on making these principles a priority in your marriage that you will enjoy a long, fun filled, prosperous life together!
Core #1 - God, Jesus and Holy Spirit
Our first core principle is to Love God, follow Jesus and always listen to the direction of the Holy Spirit. Whether you are a believer or not, the bible unmistakingly tells us how a marriage is supposed to be and what it means to love one another in that marriage. Our coaching process is very much rooted in biblical principle and we would be happy to discuss our beliefs, the bible, or answer any questions you have.
Core #2 - Same Side of the Table
Whenever you sit down, sit on the same side of the table. Don't sit across from each other. This shows unity and brings a sense of being on the same team. Studies show that men are much more likely to relax and open up when they are next to their spouse than if sitting face to face. If you are working on finances for example, it's much easier for both of you to see what you are working on if you are sitting side by side. This is especially important if you are talking with your children. It shows a unified front and shows your children that you are in agreement on the topic at hand.
Once when we were at a restaurant, we sat on the same side of the table for dinner. On the opposite side of the room was an elderly couple and they were sitting across from each other. We noticed they kept glancing over at us and we wondered if we somehow knew them. After a few minutes, the man got up, walked around the table and sat beside his wife. The smile on her face was priceless.
Core #3 - Leave a marriage legacy not a financial one.
Your children don't need a financial legacy as much as they need a marriage legacy! We know this may seem like a strange statement but hear us out. If you can leave your kids with the legacy of a strong, healthy marriage, it will do more for their future than finances ever will! They will be happier, they will follow your lead, have a strong marriage of their own, and they will pass it on to their children! That's leaving a REAL legacy!
Core #4 - Be on the same team.
One of our marriage mentors always says "No one wins in an argument. Either you both win or you both lose." This is so true. When you got married, you become one. Even though you are two individuals, you are a team. A team either wins or loses as a whole. When you get in an argument with your spouse, you may feel like you won that argument, but you've lost the fight. If you are having a conflict, stop and think what is the best thing for US as a TEAM. What draws us closer to each other, to God and toward the future we want together!